Most of us are OK with our lives being out-of-order
as long as we have no desire to put it in order. In fact, we
often get our Al Bundy on by fooling ourselves into thinking that we are still
the person we used to be until reality hits us with a Riddick Bowe upper-cut
(Shout-out to my D.C. Homie!) and reminds us that our delusion is no longer
true. When confronted with this uncomfortable realization, we may initially
deny or dismiss the truth or simply hope the reality disappears on its own.
When it doesn’t, we start with small and relatively easy steps to change the
situation, because suddenly the discomfort of the truth becomes more unbearable
than the comfort of denial. Finally, if those small steps prove to not be
enough, we recite a few verses from the Apostle Popeye who so famously stated,
“That's all I can stands because
I can't stands n'more!”
Suddenly, emotions kick into gear and give us the courage to take other steps
that may be a bit more difficult, but are more likely to solve the problem once
and for all.
In
the poem “Little Gidding,” T.S. Eliot writes, “We shall not cease from
exploration, and the end of our exploring will be to arrive where we started
and to know the place for the first time.” In other words, our life is a
journey that doesn’t require us to go anywhere. It’s a journey without distance
because we travel it within. Make no mistake–we are all on a journey, but some of our paths are
simply leading us in one continuous circle. When we find ourselves overweight,
absent from God and doing the same things we were doing more than 20 years ago;
this is a perfect indication that our evolution has ceased and we’re not living
the lives we were intended to lead.
After more than two decades
in sales & marketing, I knew the key to getting folks interested in
improving their total lives was to advertise the changes they would first see
in their body. Let’s be clear–we live in a society where physical attractiveness
trumps mental and spiritual maturity, and the majority of us are more
interested in learning how we can lose 50+ lbs in less than four months, rather
than strengthening our minds and growing closer to God. Just think about how
many infomercials you’ve seen and radio spots you’ve heard in the past few days
to get your body ripped. Now compare those to the advertisements you’ve either
seen or heard focused on quieting your mind or improving your relationship with
God, outside of viewing a Christian television network or listening to a
Christian radio broadcast. The answer… crickets chirping.
When I tell folks I’ve lost
more than 50 lbs in just four months, the first question is “What’s your
secret?” When my response is God, many unknowingly change their facial
expressions instantly as if to infer (Imply
is what the speaker does, and infer is what the hearer does. I learned this distinction
watching an episode of Law & Order),
“That surely can’t be the answer.”
Unfortunately, we’ve been programmed to believe that the primary reason
people lose fat rapidly is the d-word. The next most popular method assumed is
weight loss surgery (WLS). Third, “He must be on ‘dat stuff!” In my case, the
only stuff I was on descended from Heaven like manna and my life and those
around me has not been the same.
It was Saturday morning
on February 26th, 2011 and my wonderful wife Angela had to meet her
dad very early over in Southeast D.C. (District of Columbia). Every Saturday
morning during the prior few weeks I would wake up and go running, but if I
wanted to get my 4-miles in on this particular a.m., I would have to rise &
shine and hit the pavement before the sun had even yawned. I had logged many
miles on this same route consistently over the past few weeks, but on this
particular morning things would never be the same. About a mile into the run,
I entered into a transcendental zone where I would travel hundreds of
yards and not know how I had gotten there. The single transcending thought that
had dominated my mind during each pounding stride was simply:
"You have to write a book titled, ‘Body, Mind & Spirit.’"
Usually after
running four miles I would be winded and my muscles would be stiff, but one of
the most incredible things about this unforgettable run was that I was not
winded at all after my last stride! In fact, I felt as refreshed, as if had
just gotten out of bed after a very restful sleep. Looking back on this
life-changing run from a heightened spiritual perspective, I had received an
anointing.
Upon entering
the house, the first thing I told Angela was, "Baby, I think I'm going to
write a book." Perhaps she may have
thought I had slipped and hit my head, but her response was rather encouraging
and she even brought a book home from the grocery store later that day that
provided some valuable insight into my task at hand. My help mate took the very
first step in the incredible journey that my wonderful family would later take
as one.
Unfortunately,
like most good ideas, doubt and negativity began to enter my mind as the day
went on, but for every reason I may have thought of why I shouldn't invest the
time, energy and money into writing and publishing this guide, 20 reasons
emerged why I should. I've long believed in the power of speaking things into
existence, so I immediately posted my public proclamation in the Body, Mind
& Spirit: The Awakening Facebook group (please look for us
and ask to join) and vowed to donate one-half of all revenue (not profit but
revenue!) generated from the sale of the book to my new church home of Holy
& Whole Life Changing Ministries International located in Lansdowne, Va. I
kind of felt like Moses who, despite his speech impediment, God allowed to do
great things. God sent Aaron to Moses and I truly believe He sent me the
wonderful folks in my Facebook group to offer assistance, encouragement
and various perspectives.
So what is this guy talking about?
You
see, since January 3rd, 2011 and that life-changing run on
February 26th, 2011, I had already lost 30 lbs of fat. At the time I
sat down to write Body, Mind & Spirit: The
Awakening on April 1st, 2011,
I had lost a total of 43 lbs. That’s 43 lbs in three months! People simply
couldn’t believe that I had lost such a significant amount of fat in just a
few short weeks and I’m sure most were convinced that I would inevitably
gain the majority of it back–and then some. What most people didn’t realize is
that I had totally undergone a change of mind. I had an amazing epiphany of how
the body, mind & spirit were all connected and that we would never truly
accomplish any lasting fat loss objectives if we didn’t:
1.
Put God first and accept the
fact that fat loss needs to be for the Glory of God and not the vanity of man
if we expect it to be lasting.
2.
Realize diets should be
considered the d-word because the only lasting results they yield are the
eternal feelings of failure.
3.
Learn new ways to focus and
strengthen the mind, as well as the body to resist the inevitable urges to
return to bad eating habits and an unhealthy way of life.
4.
Accept the fact that improving
body, mind & spirit is not a destination but a lifelong journey that will
continue until God calls us Home.
To date, I’m proud to say that I’m now more
than 50 lbs lighter, I have found a new church home for my entire family, and
have found ways to quiet and center my mind in the midst of the daily chaos that
attacks us all. In addition to the personal success, my life has been a source
of inspiration for a number of family members and friends. Even more, God has
allowed me to chronicle much of the information I’ve read, lived, and observed
into Body,
Mind & Spirit: The Awakening that will
hopefully inspire others to either continue or begin a journey towards total
wellness in their life and the lives of those around them.
Each of us has a unique
story that has been steeping in our soul for far too long. When we get the
opportunity to pour that story into another’s vessel, we should find solace in
that single act of kindness. Therefore, when you get a chance to share your
story with others, please don’t hesitate. You could be the answer to someone
else’s problem. For each of our stories is a simple pebble tossed into the
ocean of humanity, and we can only dream that a tsunami of change will emerge
in the lives of our unknown brethren on a distant shore.
About the Author: James Hackley is an author, inspirational speaker, and a philanthropist who earned a B.S. degree in Physics from Longwood College and an M.S. degree in Engineering from the University of Virginia. He's the founder of Omega Consulting Enterprises, chaplain of a local chapter of Omega Psi Phi fraternity, and faithfully attends Holy & Whole Life Changing Ministries International in Lansdowne, Va. His latest book, Body, Mind & Spirit: The Awakening can be purchased by visiting him at www.jameshackley.com , www.Amazon.com, and http://www.barnesandnoble.com.